for Veterans and the Public
Talking about safer sex
You and your partners will have to decide what you are comfortable doing sexually. If you aren't used to talking openly about sex, this could be hard to get used to.
Here are some tips:
- Find a time and place outside the bedroom to talk.
- Decide what are your boundaries, concerns and desires before you start to talk.
- Make sure you clearly state what you want. Use only "I" statements, for example: "I want to use a condom when we have sex."
- Make sure you don't do, or agree to do, anything that you're not 100% comfortable with.
- Listen to what your partner is saying. Acknowledge your partner's feelings and opinions. You will need to come up with solutions that work for both of you.
- Be positive. Use reasons for safer sex that are about you, not your partner.
Of course, only you and your partner can decide what level of risk you are willing to take.